Bring Me Home From the Nursing Home
Did you (or someone you love) go to a nursing home without trying Live in home Care? Were you (or someone you love) placed into a nursing home without discussing all your options such as, in home care? Were you (or someone you love) told “you have to go to a nursing home, you’re High Care now” without receiving a second opinion? Are you (or they) desperately unhappy and wanting to return home? You don’t have to live with regrets. It’s not too late!
✓ You can leave the nursing home.
✓ And you don’t have to ever go back.
✓ Everyone who has left a nursing home to return to their home in our care, has never returned to the nursing home. They have lived happily at home all their life.
You can live safely and joyfully in your own home again and stay there for life. Most of the in home care Daughterly Care provides is for clients who have been assessed by ACAT (Aged Care Assessment Team) as “High Care” as Level 3 or Level 4 High Care Needs. We even provide their Palliative Care and End of Life Care.
Any care that can be provided in a nursing home can be provided in your own home, more attentively.
Daughterly Care’s “Take Me Home Team” regularly, and increasingly take elders home from their nursing homes to live back in their own homes.
It might feel like an enormous challenge or an impossible task to you or your family… but frankly, it’s a “walk in the park” for us… because we specialise in providing aged care for High Care elders and have done so for more than 7,500 families. Remember, we only agree to bring you home after we have visited you in the nursing home and visited your home. So we know we can look after you well.
Case 1 – Edith returns to the heart of her home and family
(Of course Edith was not our client’s real name, however her story is 100% true.)
Edith, like many parents, had given her Enduring Guardianship (EG) and Enduring Power of Attorney (EPoA) to one child. When Edith’s care needs became more complex, her son who held the EG and EPoA placed his mother into a nursing home, against her will and despite the fact that his brother wanted to care for their mother in her home.
Edith was terribly unhappy in the nursing home and begged both her sons to take her home every time they visited for 3 years.
Every visit was heart breaking. Edith’s second son had no legal power to intervene until Edith cancelled the Enduring Guardian and Power of Attorney and demanded to return to her home and to be cared for by her second son and his wife. The matter ended up in a Guardianship Tribunal where the first son stated his mother had dementia and didn’t have capacity to make the decision to return home.
Edith, her GP, Social Worker, Nursing Home Staff and 2 sons attended the Guardianship Tribunal Hearing and they ruled that yes, Edith did have dementia however the Guardianship Tribunal found that:
- Edith had the legal capacity to decide where she wanted to live. For 3 years her consistent desire had been to stay at home;
- Edith had a home to return to;
- Edith could afford to pay for private in home care services from Daughterly Care to look after her while her second son worked during the day and then he and his wife provided the care from 6pm to 8am Mon to Fri and all weekend;
- Daughterly Care was appointed as the private home care provider by the Tribunal;
- Edith’s doctor visited weekly to check her health and report to the Guardianship Tribunal on Edith’s care for a 3 months trial; and
- Helen Cole, a Registered Nurse from Daughterly Care visited weekly and submitted a written report to the Tribunal to report on Edith’s health and care for a 3 months trial.
So Edith’s son could continue running his own business, Daughterly Care was engaged to care for Edith Monday to Friday from 8am to 6pm in her home.
Edith’s days were much more interesting now… not only was Edith back in the centre of her beloved home; Edith was back in the heart of her family. She was so happy and appreciative… she was ‘living joyfully again’… now she had ‘quality of life’ and was receiving true person-centered care and person-directed care, also called Edith-directed-care.
During the day Edith interacted with her grandson and watched him play. Edith enjoyed a nutritious dinner with her son and daughter-in-law each night, and nutritious and delicious lunches made by our carers.
The same Registered Nurse visited each week from Daughterly Care to check on Edith’s well-being and so did her Doctor. Both her Private Nurse and Doctor reported Edith was exceptionally well cared for and in high spirits for the 3 month trial, so the Guardianship Tribunal allowed Edith to remain at home for life.
From 6pm to 8am weekdays and all weekend Edith was cared for by her son and daughter-in-law. As Edith slept well through the night this was not onerous and we had recommended an airflow mattress so Edith did NOT need turning during the night (given she could still move her body).
Of greatest importance, the last 9 months of Edith’s life were fulfilling. Edith died peacefully, surrounded by love, held in the loving arms of her son.
In every measure, Edith experienced a ‘good death’; she was pain free, content that she was back in her own home with her family and her son was holding her as she passed over. She had been listened to and loved. You cannot get a better death than that.
Edith’s son had given his mother, her final wish… to live at home for all her days.
And just as importantly, Edith’s son was able to give his Mother the level of care that he wanted to give her in a way that enabled him to maintain his business and family life. He could now move forward with his life with ‘no regrets’.
“Don’t be set up to fail… Let us set you up to succeed”
Jean Parlane, High Care Case Manager for over 21 years
“In our 21 years of experience supporting elders to remain in their homes for life, if you return home from the nursing home, or hospital, with too little care, you will be setting yourself up to fail and then returning to the nursing home seems ‘the only solution’.
It is far better to have more care upfront to better set yourself up to succeed at staying at home for life and then reduce the care once you are re-established.”
The Daughterly Care Live in Care service can:
- pick you up from the nursing home or meet you at your home;
- re-settle you back into your home;
- re-nourish and re-hydrate you (there are high malnutrition and dehydration rates in nursing homes);
- help you re-learn daily living skills and re-establish your routine;
- our Live in Care may even mean that your care can be reduced to twice or thrice a day visits, depending on your care needs; and
- We can Case Manage your in-home care – fully, partially or take direction completely from you.
That’s not a dream.
Case 2 – Cancer diagnosis gives Peggy the strength to leave the Nursing Home
Peggy had moved into a nursing home and wasn’t happy so when she was diagnosed with cancer she “put her foot down” and told her daughter, she was going home. She was fortunate she still had her home and could return to it.
We brought Peggy, a Northern Beaches lady, home from an elite Mosman nursing home and after a couple of months of re-enabling and restorative Live in Care she was safely and confidently re-established at home & we reduced our care to the times of the day when her care needs were greatest to supplement the care provided by Peggy’s children.
We reduced our Live in Care to 2 hours in the morning to help her go to the toilet, have a shower, get dressed and groom herself. We prepared her a deliciously nutritious breakfast, just the way she liked it and left her a sandwich with fruit for lunch.
In our late afternoon visits we cooked one of her favourite meals for dinner, just the way she told us she loved it and of course helped her get ready for bed.
Months later, due to the progression of the cancer, Daughterly Care provided Live in Palliative Care until her Registered Nurse daughter provided her End of Life care.
We can be there for you for life. You’ll never need to return to a nursing home. We can provide palliative and end of life care… so we’ll be there for you every step of the way.
The next step to leave the nursing home:
- Step 1: Ring our ‘take me home team’ (also called Our High Care Team) to discuss your situation. We will explain the cost and how Live In Care works and you can ask us as many questions as you like – get a feel for whether we are the right people to have on ‘your care team’.
- Step 2: No cost & obligation free consultation – We come and meet you in your nursing home or hospital and we can also visit your home to ensure we can look after you safely there. This is a face to face opportunity to get a better understanding of our service and decide if we are the right people to bring you home.
- Step 3: Fill out the paperwork – (Terms of Business and Direct Debit form we gave you in our Information Folder) and we’ll bring you home!
- Step 4: Once you are home, we’ll also advise the process to apply for Government subsidised Home Care Package (Consumer Directed Care) to reduce the cost of our Live in Care. The Government was subsidising your accommodation and care in the nursing home and they are also willing to subsidise the cost of your in-home care. Please note: we don’t guarantee Government assistance, Centrelink Income Assessment and how long the National Queue is, however, we will guide you through the process to fast track every step of the way.
Remember, we can solely Case Manage your care or we can ‘work with’ your family or friends or Enduring Guardian and guide them.
Daughterly Care is a premium private elder care provider of a flat fee Live in Care as well as 24 hour in home care service.
So call us for a FREE no obligation chat either in, or outside of the nursing home.
10/6/2015 Mrs S (daughter) Kiama Downs
We have been extremely satisfied with the care that Mum has received over the past few months especially with the sad circumstances of Brian passing away and we believe the one-on-one care has been very beneficial for Mum.
Eleanor and Katherine are exceptional Live in Carers, compassionate and adaptable to Mum’s needs.
I would like to thank both Eleanor and Katherine personally if this is ok and would also be happy to write a testimonial about our experience with Daughterly Care.